Perplexing Challenges in Couples Therapy

Lies, Infidelity, Unrelenting Hostility, and Self-Absorption

Ellyn Bader, Peter Pearson

July 7-9, 2017

Friday-Sunday, 2 nights

See below for
accommodation rates.


Program Description

Enhance your skills for navigating some of the toughest problems encountered with couples in therapy.

Join the founders of The Couples Institute, Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, for an interactive weekend workshop to learn their Developmental Model of Couples Therapy for working with particularly difficult and challenging couples. Ellyn and Peter will dissect, dismantle, and reveal elegant approaches that will build your confidence and make your work easier, more enjoyable, and successful.

Using video demonstration, clinical transcripts, and role-play, they will show you step-by-step how to have significant impact with couples’ patterns, especially hostility and blaming, the crisis of infidelity, the confrontation of lies and deception, and the self-absorbed partner.

In this comprehensive weekend—especially for marriage therapists, psychologists, social workers, counselors, mediators, and coaches—you will learn how to:

  • Inspire motivation in unmotivated partners
  • Identify a continuum of lies and skillfully confront deception
  • Address the intrapsychic impasses of self-absorbed partners and encourage greater empathy and compassion
  • Integrate attachment theory, differentiation theory, and neuroscience with tough couples
  • Intervene incisively to support the developmental growth of each partner.

Expect to take away innovative and practical new approaches you can begin to use immediately.

You will return to your practice with skills for untangling the web of deception, moving self-absorbed partners from greed to giving, and shifting hostility in early sessions so your clients can create and sustain enduring change.

Why Attend?

  • Increase your confidence by developing your ability to assess and address complex patterns in couples’ behavior.

  • Gain innovative and practical approaches to working with challenging couples so you can increase your impact.

  • Reignite your enthusiasm for your therapy practice by expanding your skills and knowledge of what couples need in order to overcome difficult relationship struggles.

Things to Know

  • Program Schedule

    Download a sample schedule.

  • Prerequisites

    None required.

  • Experience Level

    None required.

  • Special Interest to

    Marriage therapists, psychologists, social workers, counselors, mediators, and coaches

Program Faculty

Ellyn_Bader-2016hs-web.300x400Ellyn Bader

Ellyn Bader and her husband Peter Pearson are the founders and directors of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California. For the…


Peter-Pearson-2016hs-web-300x400Peter Pearson

Peter Pearson and his wife Ellyn Bader are the founders and directors of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California. For the past 30 years,…



Accommodations, meals, and campus activities rates, per person, for all program nights:

Pod: $280
Standard single: from $390
Standard double: from $360
Traditional: from $420
Suite: from $700

Taxes apply.

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