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Xanet Pailet, Certified sex and intimacy educator and coach

Xanet Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is a recovered New York City healthcare lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach.

Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. She works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women and men who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality.

Xanet loves men-she has two adult sons of her own. She understands how challenging it is to be a man these days. She and Kai created this workshop to provide a supportive, safe space for men to better understand how to show up for women in their life.

Xanet is a certified Somatica® sex and intimacy coach, sexological body worker, holistic pelvic care practitioner, Tantra educator, and Somatic Experiencing® trauma practitioner. She is on the faculty of the Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.

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