Margaret Paul, PhD, is a writer and cocreator of Inner Bonding. She holds a doctorate in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant, and artist. Dr. Paul has appeared on numerous radio and television shows, including the Oprah Winfrey Show. Usually both partners are trying to control each other into getting what they want, and they're not taking responsibility for themselves and for their own feelings. If you've learned to really see and value and love yourself, you're going to be attracted to somebody who's also doing that. These two people will create a much more loving relationship. After doing his Inner Bonding work, he started meeting some women who were not quite like that. And then finally last year he met a wonderful, fantastic woman. They fell in love, they got married, and they're having a baby. They're doing so well because they're open. They're open to learning and they're open to loving, and they take good enough care of themselves that they have love to share with each other. But they don't really know that until they deal with their end of the system. If they don't deal with their end of the system, and they just blame the other person and leave, they're going to take their same self-abandoning ways with them into the next relationship and create a very similar relationship. Unfortunately, past statistics have shown that in the United States, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce, although recent research stated that the divorce rate is going down, which is good news. If you're loving yourself, tending to your inner child, and manifesting your gifts in the world, then you're going to be happy whether you're in a relationship or not. Feeling desperate to find a partner will no longer be an issue. One of my clients recently had an experience of being very connected with herself—very connected with her higher guidance and in a state of joy and power. It was incredible to see her in that state. She had been feeling rather desperate about ending up alone because she's in the midst of a divorce. I asked her, "So when you feel this way, do you feel that desperation to be in a relationship?" She said, "Oh, no. If I'm ever in a relationship again, that'll just be gravy!" Margaret Paul, PhD, will be teaching Inner Bonding® at 1440 Multiversity from March 6 – 8, 2020. This interview was conducted on behalf of 1440 Multiversity by Jenn Brown—a freelance writer, editor, producer, and educator.
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Loving Yourself is the Key to a Loving Relationship: An Interview with Margaret Paul
By: Jenn Brown / 14 May 2019